The stress of divorce brings out the worst in people. One case became so bitter, the husband actually took an ax to the house and demanded the wife tell him which half she wanted.
The only people that win in divorce are lawyers.
So now, I marry people.
Marrying couples allows me to see the love and happiness they begin their life together.
Plus, it’s a lot happier. And less stressful.
I’m 82 years old and being of Eastern European extraction, I just don’t know when to stop working. Funny how it all happened, really. In 2003, my son called me up and said he was going to get married but his fiancée was on a 90 day Visa… it needed to happen quickly. I told him to find a judge but he ended up coming across a marriage commissioner instead. I had never heard of such a thing! Fast forward a bit and my grandson was born. I had been commuting back and forth from New Jersey and I finally said, “Ah, to hell with work. I’m going to play with my grandson in Virginia. So I transferred my licenses and consulting business to Virginia and made it home.”
One afternoon, my mom and dad showed up at my house, packed my belongings and moved me to North Carolina. I began attending UNC Charlotte where I studied Criminal Justice and Pre-law. I eventually made the move up to VCU and continued to pursue my degree there. I was just shy of graduating when I had this realization that going on to law school wasn’t really what I wanted to do, it was what I was “supposed to do.”
Lynn: “Ha, sometimes I take a look around and go, “Who the hell put me in charge of all of this?!” You know, I started out renting a conference room in a chiropractor’s office with my little curtain blowing in the breeze and charging $25 for an hour-long massage. We now have 22 massage therapists and 13 rooms.”
Ramona: “Really though, who put her in charge?!”
We can try to grab a moment here or there to breathe or just take in the moment but tea makes you slow down. It’s not the same as chugging a cup of coffee. There’s more to tea than just tea. People can enhance their lifestyle and their health by adding in a couple of cups a day. We have first-timers come in and say, “Eh, I’m not really a tea drinker” but after spending time with them and educating them they leave with an excitement about tea and the potential it holds in their lives.
I am currently in the process of hiring a professional to do something I can’t do on my own. As a layperson, it’s really hard for me to know how to qualify someone in a field of which I know absolutely nothing. (I tried to get referrals, but nobody had any they felt strongly about.) In my current predicament, I now have several quotes, all for the same thing, but they differ by quite a bit in price. I feel like I should take the cheapest one, and so far, have no reason to pay any more than that.
Since photography pricing is extremely varied, how does the layperson decide? As an expert, it is VERY obvious to me who you should go to for certain types of photography. I tell my friends all of the time to please ask me for advice before hiring anyone.
This article from Jen Little, owner of The Little Marketing Department describes her experience getting an inexpensive headshot, and then her experience with me. She even posts both sets of photos so you can see the difference. The most important part of the entire article is that the first set of headshots made her feel badly about herself. That's terrible.
You should never pay money to someone who makes you feel badly about yourself.
If you need a refresh on your professional image, the first place you need to look is at the headshot you’re attaching to your marketing materials. If you haven’t updated your headshot in two years, then now is the time. Clients want and need trust when they hire you, and when you present a false or outdated headshot as a representation of you, it sets up a bad foundation for your professional relationship.
So why do so many people avoid updating their head shots? There are three MYTHS which hold people back:
Myth 1. They loved the way they looked 20 years ago. It gives the best impression.
Myth 2. The expense for amazing, professional headshots
Myth 3. They think it takes too much time
The way you looked 20 years ago has no bearing on the professional level of service you provide your clients. It will not give you confidence nor the credibility to present your best light to your clients. A fresh and updated headshot shows potential clients that you are with current tends and modern methods. There is evidence that a headshot which doesn't currently look like you actually decreases your credibility.
The expense and time involved can be tricky - but that’s where my headshot event can help. This event is designed with your budget and time in mind. A great professional setting with me guiding you to your best headshot ever. I have worked with hundreds of professionals over the years and I love bringing personality and life to your headshots.
Check out these testimonials:
“Timorah always brings out my best photos. She’s the only person I trust when I need new headshots for myself or any of the real estate agents I work with at Rose & Womble. She talks you off the edge of an average photo and she brings out your true personality.” Ramona Rice, Communications Manager, Rose & Womble Realty Company
"Mrs. Beales is very easy to work with. She made the experience light-hearted and professional." Mike Mills, Keller Williams
"I love working with Timorah Beales. Not only does she choose beautiful photo shoot locations, she really works hard to make sure you look good. I use the headshot Timorah took of me for programs for speaking engagements, for guest post author biographies, and for my blog. People ALWAYS say, "I love your picture. Who was your photographer?"" Cheryl Tan, television journalist and media coach.
My one-day event will give you one high-resolution, professionally touched up headshot that you choose during the session. You will receive the photo a few days later via email and you’ll have a fresh look for the upcoming busy real estate season.
The best part is the price - $50 per person for a high-resolution, professionally touched up headshot that will give you the confidence you need to push your business forward in 2016. This price is limited to the first 15 people who sign up. Once the first round is filled the price increases to $65.
Her first email to me said, "My husband and I are buying our first home. We take possession this Monday and were hoping for some photos." My mind immediately launched into how beautiful this could be. I knew nothing about them, their style or their home, but I was hopeful. I was actually available that day! This could be pretty unique. As our conversation progressed, we soon figured out we were a perfect match. They wanted sweet and emotional and creative. They are fun, kind and beautiful. (And the sellers left behind a baby grand piano!!) She told me that she really hoped I would be the one who could do this for them. I'm so flattered and thrilled to have had the opportunity! Our clients are the best.
We're finally thawing out from the 'bad' winter here and are ready to get started on outdoor spring photos. Spring photos are ideal for those who decorate their homes in neutral and cool tones. Cherry blossoms are always popular, but their short availability means that a few local places such as Red Wing Park in Virginia Beach, are VERY crowded. Luckily, I know of a few places that aren't crowded, and we had a fabulous time last year with this family.
Peak blooms in this location are typically about 5-7 days ahead of those in DC, which means we are booking cherry blossom sessions April 4-9... perfectly coinciding with spring break for York County schools! We have two session options: full-service and tailored sessions. Each option has its benefits, and you can choose depending on what YOU want and need.
If photographing people has taught me one thing, it's that we see ourselves differently, and more critically, than others do. At most of my sessions, I ask "What do you not like about yourself in photos?" The responses I get are often surprising. Sometimes, I study the person's face while they ponder, and I start thinking about lighting or angles I would use to flatter their particular face shape or features. Then they tell me something that I never would have guessed or noticed without much scrutiny -- a bump on a nose, one eyebrow shorter than the other, the way you can see a missing tooth if the smile is too big. For many people, it's their weight or the fear of a double chin. Occasionally, I will work with someone who is perfectly comfortable in their own skin. (Let's face it, it's almost always men.) The more people you have in a photo, the more complicated this process becomes.
The funny thing is... when people look at your photos, they aren't looking for your flaws. They only see your expression. They are touched by your genuine smile, the kindness in your eyes, the tender moments between people who love each other.
I've often said that great photos aren't just what we look like, but who we really are. This mama and repeat client has few photos from her own childhood, so she makes a point of getting them for each child's birthday. The little girl in this photo, like many her age, is enthralled with princesses, dress-up, and stories. So Tammy created a session just for her, with that theme in mind. Tammy does an excellent job with conceptual shoots and would love to hear any idea you have!
Do you want to look fabulous in any photo? Find out here.